Silver Garden Spider

The Dish


Reading Poetry

Faux Pas

Catullus 101

Multas per gentes et multa per aequora vectus

Carried through many nations and over many seas

advenio has miseras, frater, ad inferias,

I arrived, brother, for these wretched funeral rites

ut te postremo donarem munere mortis

So that I might present you with the last tribute of death

et mutam nequiquam alloquerer cinerem.

and speak in vain to silent ash,

Quandoquidem fortuna mihi tete abstulit ipsum.

Since fortune has carried away from me you in the flesh

Heu miser indigne frater adempte mihi,

Atlas, poor brother, unfairly taken away from me,

nunc tamen interea haec, prisco quae more parentum

now in the meantime, nevertheless, these things which in the ancient custom of ancestors

tradita sunt tristi munere ad inferias,

are handed over as a sad tribute to the rites

accipe fraterno multum manantia fletu,

receive, dripping much with brotherly weeping.

atque in perpetuum, frater, ave atque vale.

And forever, brother, hail and farewell.

Adonais written by Percy Bysshe Shelley (1792-1822)

Saturday, June 07, 2008

The Faux Pas

No doubt, you have read about or heard candidates in the up-coming race for the White House made apologies, right, left and centre for their mistakes, wrongdoings, gaffes or whatever during their political speeches.

Let's for a moment look more closely at the apology. In a civilized society, good manners predicates that when acts that cannot be undone, hurt the feelings of others, the apology is the balm that soothes. This ointment must be applied in a timely fashion to be most effective. Indeed, the tone and texture in the apology must send off an air of sincerity. When the apology is given orally, the body language of the apologizer must be in harmony with the message in the apology. I tend to agree with this view that folks who are deep thinkers and not egotistically propelled don' t have many occasions when they need make apologies.

Enough said. However, when the apology is ignored, irreparable damaged to the future relationships of the person or persons involved is the end result. What does this tell you? The apology is of upmost importance in human interaction. Be reminded that the apology (carry the olive blossom) does not make the apologizer weak or be perceived as being cowardly. On the contrary, it shows strength of character.

In making an apology there are key elements that must be present otherwise it is not an apology but grand standing. What are these key ingredients for a good and sincere apology? One should express regret. Provide assurance that the offense won’t happen again. Deliver the apology on time. Make sure it is genuine and avoid the use of the word, "but…"

In imperial lingo, a mistake, misspoke, gaffe, white lie or whatever is romantically coated as a Faux pas. Well in the summer of 2005 while in New Zealand all the different forms of the media were having a field day exposing Prince Harry's faux pas. Prince Harry, the son of Prince Charles threw a fancy-dress ball. Unknowing to Prince Harry, I'm told; the paparazzi took pictures of him wearing a Nazi war symbol. These pictures caused eyebrows to be raised among the Jewish community as well as with Leaders of Commonwealth countries. They felt his behaviour was not in keeping with someone who may some day become King of England. The distraught Prince after many days of mulling over this faux pas gave an apology. His apology is seen as a very heroic act. This brought him back in good favour with people around the globe and indeed the Jewish community. The apology from this royal youth serves to strengthen the notion that any sincere apology can heal wounds. I was so impressed with the outcome of his apology, there and then, I had to write a poem about it in iambic pentameter with a rhyme scheme abab. Here it goes

The frivolity of youth is its charm;
Slowly fades away with the aging soul;
A fancy dress party raised the alarm;
The harried Prince, some way, has lost control.

Skeletons in the closet do have sway;
Secrets are tied to the bones in the chest;
In graveyards they no longer want to stay,
But invade young minds that want to impress.

Constant in battle are young rolling stones;
The ancestral flaws they like to expose;
Hypocrisy lies in these bags of bones,
So let’s throw a party and wear their clothes.

The stage was set for the ball of the year;
Tom, Dick and Harry wore mask in the crowd;
Common guys were not suppose to be there;
And their ragbag clothes made a Nazi cloud.

The commoners’ streets are not paved with gold;
So the hair comes down in any spotlight.
Top of the line, comes from a different mould,
So a faux pas is very impolite.


In the lens, paparazzi shoot the Crown;
No vetted shots, from them, for royal folks,
Who throughout the country they bring renown;
This mystic feeling, royalty evokes.


Mistakes are made so old folks reprimand,
But with every error something is learnt.
History as a core, not taught in England!
So youth do not know what folks Hitler burnt.

How well one seeks to correct every wrong,
Indicates the true measure of the man;
So you eat humble pie, to make you strong,
And reflect on the way it all began.


Well, you apologise with words really
That show, your remorse is truly sincere.
The apology is given freely,
For actions speak louder than codes you wear.

© Paterika Hengreaves


Bob McKerrow said...

Dear Paterika

The race for the White House is on and you have imaginatively have captured that plus a raft of other things in your intro and subtle poem. God bless the Queen and the harried Prince. Obama, Hillary and the whloe Royal family. It is like a 20/20 cricket match. Entertainment oozing from every ball, let alone the over.

Thanks for the laugh.


Ruahines said...

Kia ora Paterika,
I love it, again so much to explore, and your words dance off the page. I am smiling.

Ruahines said...

Tena koe Paterika,
I returned for another reading. After reading more and more of the electioneering starting to emerge in the US. I wonder how many sugar coated apologies we will be hearing for perceived past "wrongs" in order to placate the greater good. They should all have to read your post. Kia ora.

Marja said...

Lovely poem I remember that incident very well and did feel shocked too. My parents experienced that war and my husbands father was sent too a work camp. Well apologies are than very important especially for a royal rolemodel.

Marja said...

Hi Paterika Hope you are doing well. I've got an award for you on my blog.

Ruahines said...

Kia ora Paterika,
Hope all is well and you are enjoying a little blogging break. Have a lovely day.


Knitting Lessons


A Must Read for Poetrynest Fans

Click on this Link

Viewing Statistics

166 countries

Edifying Poetry

My Videos

Click on Videos

Bajan Voicing latin Vowels
Bajan Voicing Classical Latin Alphabet
Bajan Voicing Short Vowels in Classical Latin
Bajan Voicing Long Vowel Sounds in Latin Words
Bajan Voicing Latin Diphthongs

My Favourite Books

  • The Bible
  • Shakespearean Works
  • Novels: detective/romance/science fiction
  • Fables of Aesop
  • Classical Books
  • Books on Poetry (traditional and modern)

Read Poetry, News and a Whole Lot More as the World Spins

My Pet Animals

I love my cats and dogs

Ash and Ginger

Ash and Ginger
Ash (in foreground) died from old age






Latest pet arrival

Founder of the Barbados Labour Part (BLP) Sir Grantley Adams

Founder of the Barbados Labour Part (BLP) Sir Grantley Adams
Died November 28, 1971 at the age of 73

Founder of the Democratic Labour Party (DLP), Sir Errol Walton Barrow

Founder of the Democratic Labour Party (DLP), Sir Errol Walton Barrow
Died June 1987 at the age of 67



In plenty and in time of need
When this fair land was young
Our brave forefathers sowed the seed
From which our pride was sprung
A pride that makes no wanton boast
Of what it has withstood
That binds our hearts from coast to coast
The pride of nationhood


We loyal sons and daughters all
Do hereby make it known
These fields and hills beyond recall
Are now our very own
We write our names on history's page
With expectations great
Strict guardians of our heritage
Firm craftsmen of our fate

The Lord has been the people's guide
For past three hundred years.
With Him still on the people's side
We have no doubts or fears.
Upward and onward we shall go,
Inspired, exulting, free,
And greater will our nation grow
In strength and unity.


We loyal sons and daughters all
Do hereby make it known
These fields and hills beyond recall
Are now our very own
We write our names on history's page
With expectations great
Strict guardians of our heritage
Firm craftsmen of our fate

The tree that gave Barbados its name

Independent Barbados Shelved Guy Fawkes Night

Click on title to read poem

Halloween Poetry - Pirates of the Caribbean

Poems for September 11

Click on Titles to read poem

(Diastic Reading Through Procedures)
(Reversed Telestich)
No Friendly Sky Anymore
(in Diastic)
No Friendly Sky Anymore
(in Free Verse)
Nine Eleven's Broken Promise
(Iambic Tetrameter abab)
Ode to Sweet Revenge - Ground Zero Never
(in Irregular Ode)

Hello Sweden


Midsummer's Day Exquisiteness

Sample Didactic Poems

Didactic Poetry is intended to convey instruction and
information as well as pleasurable reading. It can assume
the mode and features of imaginative works by infusing knowledge in a variety of forms such as dramatic poetry, satire, parody, among others. There is the popular view that allegory, aphorisms, apologues, fables, gnomes and proverbs are specific types of Didactic Poetry because of their close affinity.

Click to Read

Hurricane Preparedness Watch
If Words
Rhyming For So

Too Sweet

Royal Wedding Cake for Prince William and Kate Middleton


Limerick Poems



Click on the Title to read poem

Laugh it Off
She Asks
Wiener Souse

Barbados' National Festival of Culture July 1 to August 1

Click title to read Poem

Kadooment Day

Follow by Email

To all the people in New Zealand

Thank God only minor damage has been caused by this 7.0 Earthquake in New Zealand's North and South Islands.

Kia ora

Robb Kloss - Musing from Aoteaora
Marja Blom - Dutchcorner
Bob McKerrow - Wayfarer
Pete Mcgregor - pohanginapete

Send me a shout that you are okay.

Follow Me

Follow Paterika2 on Twitter

Map of Quaking Earth

Map of Quaking Earth
(For the period: January 2010 - March 7, 2010) We cannot stop earthquakes but we can reduced the death rate.

New World Earthquakes for 2010 (Haiti) (Chile)

The Quaking Earth

Haiti Under Rubble from 7.0 Earthquake (January 12, 2010)

Chile Under Rubble from 8.8 Earthquake (February 27, 2010)

Natural disasters whenever and wherever they occur impact our lives. My thoughts and prayers are with the people of Haiti and Chile and elsewhere battling with the uglyness of disasters.

Search This Blog

National Anthems of New Zealand

Anthem 1

Māori Version

E Ihowā Atua,
O ngā iwi mātou rā
Āta whakarangona;
Me aroha noa
Kia hua ko te pai;
Kia tau tō atawhai;
Manaakitia mai

Ōna mano tāngata
Kiri whero, kiri mā,
Iwi Māori, Pākehā,
Rūpeke katoa,
Nei ka tono ko ngā hē
Māu e whakaahu kē,
Kia ora mārire

Tōna mana kia tū!
Tōna kaha kia ū;
Tōna rongo hei pakū
Ki te ao katoa
Aua rawa ngā whawhai
Ngā tutū e tata mai;
Kia tupu nui ai

Waiho tona takiwā
Ko te ao mārama;
Kia whiti tōna rā
Taiāwhio noa.
Ko te hae me te ngangau
Meinga kia kore kau;
Waiho i te rongo mau

Tōna pai me toitū
Tika rawa, pono pū;
Tōna noho, tāna tū;
Iwi nō Ihowā.
Kaua mōna whakamā;
Kia hau te ingoa;
Kia tū hei tauira;

English Version

God of Nations at Thy feet,
In the bonds of love we meet,
Hear our voices, we entreat,
God defend our free land.
Guard Pacific's triple star
From the shafts of strife and war,
Make her praises heard afar,
God defend New Zealand.

Men of every creed and race,
Gather here before Thy face,
Asking Thee to bless this place,
God defend our free land.
From dissension, envy, hate,
And corruption guard our state,
Make our country good and great,
God defend New Zealand.

Peace, not war, shall be our boast,
But, should foes assail our coast,
Make us then a mighty host,
God defend our free land.
Lord of battles in Thy might,
Put our enemies to flight,
Let our cause be just and right,
God defend New Zealand.

Let our love for Thee increase,
May Thy blessings never cease,
Give us plenty, give us peace,
God defend our free land.
From dishonour and from shame,
Guard our country's spotless name,
Crown her with immortal fame,
God defend New Zealand.

May our mountains ever be
Freedom's ramparts on the sea,
Make us faithful unto Thee,
God defend our free land.
Guide her in the nations' van,
Preaching love and truth to man,
Working out Thy glorious plan,
God defend New Zealand.

Anthem 2

God Save the Queen

God save our gracious Queen,
Long live our noble Queen,
God save The Queen.
Send her victorious,
Happy and glorious,
Long to reign over us:
God save The Queen.

O Lord our God, arise,
Scatter our enemies,
And make them fall;
Confound their politics,
Frustrate their knavish tricks;
On thee our hopes we fix:
God save us all.

Thy choicest gifts in store
On her be pleased to pour,
Long may she reign.
May she defend our laws,
And ever give us cause
To sing with heart and voice,
God save The Queen.

Note: The second verse of 'God Save The Queen' is commonly omitted.

Edmund Hillary


Today's Featured Poem in Blank Form

Charlie Douglas
by Bob McKerrow

Guests Poets' Poems


Centre Piece

Centre Piece
Yellow Candles

Ohio Sunrise July 6, 2007

Ohio Sunrise July 6, 2007

Quoting Maya Angelou

Education helps one's case Cease being intimidated by strange situations